When You Feel Like a Parenting Failure (Owning My Mom Imperfections)
This week, I felt like a parenting failure. Hopefully, you will learn as much as I did from this week’s overwhelming parenting failures.
My son and I had a conflict as he was getting ready for school. (Really, it was his lack of getting ready for school.)
Regretfully, I completely lost my patience and raised my voice. Raising my voice did not get him moving faster but it did stress us both out.
Instead of deescalating the situation, I made it worse. Everything I said and did was exactly what not to do, making it the ultimate parenting failure moment.
Luckily, he did make it on the bus in time.
However, the entire day, I felt terrible.
Obsessively, I kept replaying the situation in my head rehashing all the things I could have done better.
Undoubtedly, as an adult, I owned the situation and I needed to apologize. It was my parenting failure to not set a positive example.
On a side note, if you have ever been mom shamed, be sure to read Mom Shaming (Why They Do Not Deserve Your Time).
Like a true hypocrite, I did not adhere to the structure we try to provide in our home of being happy, healthy, and respectful.
However, there is a positive side. We all had a week of learning and growing by acknowledging our imperfections.
By embracing the opportunity to have an open conversation with my son, we were able to calmly discuss:
- What happened from our perception
- Express how we both were feeling
- How we both can do better
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